universal truth about love

I've found there are very universal truths about love...

It will happen when you least expect it.
Like discovering something awful sounding/looking food tastes yummy, or that that taco you had a few hours ago gave you food poisoning.

Example, I joined a dating site looking for friends. Before you beat me to it let me say, “Who the hell joins a dating site looking for friends?!”

Well, this girl of course! *Points thumbs at self*

I’ve met a few people whom I’m now friends with from there. Then I decided to meet with this witty chap one day, and unbeknownst to me, I received a shiny new boyfriend! He came complete with such amenities and features like an education, operational brain, and good sense of humor. I lie to you not when I say he looked at me one night and said, ‘you’re so my girlfriend’, then we were a couple.

It felt like receiving a present you didn’t exactly want at Christmas, like a pair of socks or new underwear. Then you totally appreciate it, the next day or someday, when you realized your laundry is not clean or you wore holes through all your socks and undergarments. GREAT FEELING!

Despite trying, sometimes you can’t help who your heart attaches itself to.
Some women like Prada bags, some chicks dig Vera Bradley, others like hobo bags … personally I have a soft spot for ugly purses. I own one that looks like I pulled the wooly upholstery off a 70’s couch and lined the sides with metallic green material that must have been recycled from a pair of 80’s hooker platform boots.

The thing is we fall for who we fall. My MO is usually funny nerdy guys and chicks with a pompous streak. The mind is so sexy; too bad the ones I meet come with this complex! I’ve fallen for the good looking ones, the bigger ones, the shy ones, the ones with 10,000 holes in their face, jerks, clingers, dependents, independents, and people with more problems than a college calculus final. It just happens.

It’s hard to control the velocity and trajectory of love.
Even aerospace engineers screw up sometimes, and they went to school for this stuff. Google NASA goofs or mess-ups and you’ll see. If you can achieve control over this, you are probably the romantic emotions equivalent of an angry birds master.

Some of my relationships built over years, then faded slowly. Others were quick to ignite and burned out just as fast. My last relationship took a whole week after meeting to officially be a couple. It also went downhill quick too. Like I said, uncontrollable unless you are some sort of zen master.

Love can change.
Like Baskin Robin ice cream flavors, there are many types of love, and the flavors can change often! One minute it can be an intense all-consuming love, and the next minute it’s gone completely off the menu. It can switch between and from intense love, friendly love, deeply passionate love, caring love, devoted love, etc.

I also find that things always change after the ‘honeymoon’ period is over and you really get to know who you’ve fallen in love with. Sure, sometimes it’s good change. You realize you love the true person they are, and maybe you think how they organize their underwear by color, year, and make is really awesome ( Hey whatever rocks your socks! I won’t judge!). Other times you realize their personality and little quirks, like being berated for not decompressing all the air out of the bag of a loaf of bread, will drive you up a wall.

Love will change you.
Emotional connections with people affect who we are and how we act. It can make us a better person, and it can drag us down into a hole; thus turn us into something we want or don’t want to become. This can be both a conscious thing and sub conscious. That is the nature of the beast.

Remember what I said above about the bread? Yeah, it’s one that happened with an ex. I realized after a while I started to squeeze the air out of the bread bag to appease my partner. Sure this was a good habit, it really does help keep the bread fresh longer, but this carried over to other things too. I realized I was changing myself, and I eventually became someone I hated. It’s like that LCD sound system song, ‘I Can Change’. The guy basically falls in love with a person because of who they were, then realizes their partnership is dissolving, so he changes himself to make them fall in love, or stay in love with him.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve gathered great hobbies, habits, lessons and insight into myself from love. Just make sure you define how love changes you.

Love brings both happiness and pain.
While love can be expressed through physical acts, Love is not physical, it’s emotional.

One night I got together with a girl just started dating. Oddly enough she wanted to exchange stories about scars. She pointed to one on her knee, and told me how her brother threw an authentic aboriginal boomerang at her. When it was my turn I pointed to a place on my arm.

She cried, “There isn’t a scar there!” I told her,” yes there is … but it’s not one you can see. “

I told her a memory from a past relationship that caused me pain and afterwards I explained to her that ,“ the most painful scars aren’t the ones you can’t see, they’re the emotional ones.”

Then she pointed to another spot without a scar and asked about that one. I told her the story of the first night she asked me on a date and how happy it made me feel to be wanted by this beautiful woman. So I said that, “ the same goes for happiness, we can see it physically expressed through actions but we can’t see the emotion. We can only walk around with these great memories and share them with others.”

Just remember, the memories we remember best are the ones attached to great emotion. I think that’s why love affects us so profoundly. We are human; we experience joy, laughter, sadness and hurt … but we heal, we move forward and we still love regardless. That is a wonderful thing.

Sometimes love is not enough.
Ever get to point in a relationship where you go, “ I love you but if I have to be around you one more second I’m going to do you bodily harm?” I’ve had a few of those … everyone has had those moments.

Love isn’t perfect, we will all have our bad days, drive each other crazy, and have disagreements. But when a relationship between two people goes bad, then sometimes love really isn’t enough.

Sometimes it hits you that the person you love may not feel the same for you, makes you unhappy, might cheat on you, prevent you from being you, hurts you in anyway continuously; despite how much you love them, you need to realize you might have to walk away. If the person you are with isn’t happy, or you are hurting them more by being with them, then sometimes you need to let them go as well.

I loved a man very much, and he loved me as well. Sure, he was kind, fun, smart, someone I enjoyed hanging out with, but things just started to fall apart. I wasn’t happy, I wasn’t me. I got tired of trying to make things work. So one day, enough was enough. It hurt, sometimes it still does.

Walking away from someone you love hurts. Sometimes letting go of someone one who loves you hurts too. You’ve got to do what’s best for you, and sometimes them. Love can be as easy as holding a hand, and kissing someone goodnight. It also can be as hard as walking away knowing your heart only beats for them.

Love is more than just a romantic relationship. 
I bet you there is something out there you love that’s not just a partner, a boyfriend, a girlfriend. It can be the job you do, a hobby, a friend, a pet, a child, maybe you love collecting stuffed llamas ( who am I to say what you do or don't love). The Greeks had names for the different types of love, because love isn’t confined to just one definition or situation.

I love art, I love socializing with others, I love traveling, I love Ben and Jerry’s (ok maybe not love it but like it a lot!). I say love because these are things so deeply embedded in me … I just don’t like them, I really do love them with about as much and most times more than a partner. This is the type of love that is life devotion, and makes you who you are.

At the end of the day, we may lose a romantic partner or we may find one, but remember there are other things and people you love. The most important love of your life you’ll ever have is love for yourself. Love you.

And accept that love is.


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Hijabers Community - 1st Islamic Study

Hijabers Community.

From Indonesia With Love.

hijabers

Assalamualaikum...

How are you doing? I know it has been a long time since my last entry. Kind of busy lately.

Actually today I would like to share something with all of you. Especially for those who wear hijab. Saya rasa ia sangat2 lah menarik. Setahu saya kat Malaysia we have 'The Scarflets' if i'm not mistaken. But, in Indonesia diorang pun ada their own hijab community. They called it 'Hijabers Community'. And i think they awesome and unique. The way diorang wear hijab, mix and match so unique. And diorang pun ada icon fashion muslimah tersendiri. Like in Malaysia kita ada Shea Rasol, Maria Elena, Ami Schaheera, Jezmine Blossom, Yuna dan tak lupa The Scarflets and many more. So, kat Indonesia pun diorg ada icon fashion muslimah mereka sendiri like Dian Pelangi, Jenahara, Ina Rovi, Inas Scarf, Ashfi Qamara etc.

So, why don't you guys check out their blog/web. Jom kita pelbagai kan lagi Fashion Muslimah and Hijab kat Malaysia ni. Even kita pakai hijab, we still can look gorgeous+awesome. Am i right? Go Hijabers!

Now lets the picture do the talking.

Jenahara

fiminin

Hijabers Community

Hijabers Community

Dian Pelangi

Dian Pelangi

xoxo

Happy Mother's Day

3 yrs old “Mommy, I love you.”
13 yrs old “Mom, whatever!”
16 yrs old: “My mom is so annoying!”
18 yrs old “I wanna leave this house.”
25 yrs old: “Mom, you were right”
30 yrs old “I want to go back to my Mom’s house”.
50 yrs old: “I don’t want to lose my mom.”
70 yrs old: “I would give up EVERYTHING for my mom to be here..with me.”
I may not always say how thankful I am for all your efforts for me, but believe me mom I really thank you for everything. Thank you for being a part of my life!
Mom, you’re irreplaceable:)
I love you!

 I’m always 3 years old with this.

i'm the girl....

I'm the girl who tries to be nice to everyone then gets taken advantage of. I'm the girl who tries to look pretty and it's never good enough. I'm the girl who acts like she's happy then goes home and wishes to be gone. I'm the girl who takes harsh words act like they're nothing then goes home and cries. I'm the girl who tries to get her point across and could never find the right words. I'm the girl who has more depth to her then everyone thinks. I'm the girl who hides from the harsh eyes. I'm the girl who wouldn't care if you gave me a shitty gift as long as you thought of me. I'm the girl that prays that someone will finally understand. I'm the girl that gets happy over the little things. I'm the girl that people misinterpret.

never say never

My life has been short but I have already learned quite a bit about love... Not through personal experience, but more through seeing others I know love. Some love and lose, some lose someone they might have loved and luckily some love each other forever. I think about that one or many loves constantly, always hoping I don't miss my chance. My fear of never finding that love has made me create an unattainable goal in my head: find the perfect guy you will find the perfect relationship and you will get the perfect life. That whole scenario is what I've been looking for.

But I have realized that kind of perfectness does not exist in a person. It exists in a connection, a relationship. That is what love is. Love is that person who isn't necessarily perfect, but it perfect for you.

They say real love comes when you aren't searching for it. I used to think that it was absurd to say that because most everyone is searching for love; and many do find it. But of all those people I know, who I've watched love, though it may not have lasted forever, I've realized one thing. They all loved. There isn't a person I know who could end their life saying they haven't loved. The moment I realized that was the moment I stopped searching. I stopped searching for that perfect guy, for that perfect relationship, for that perfect life.

I've never been in love. But I am waiting for it. No longer searching. Waiting, because I know it will come.

it's boring

1st wanna say Assalamualaikum...

ok.today entry nak merapu2 sekali sekala.

almost a month since my last semester end. and it's kind of boring. i mean totally boring. but not that boring. BUT still a big boring to me. ngee... totally missing my friends and college life(hot boys, b-atch, the nerdy and whatsoever). setiap hari always buat benda yang sama. help my mum, do the chores, watch tv etc. that's bored.

the most scary part is......my weight! oh,no! definitely no! FAT? i'm getting FAT. that's so scary ok. everyday motivate diri supaya jangan asyik makan je. but i can't help it. it's mom's cook. you tell me how can you not eat masakan ibu? there is no way. 3 months duduk kampung. can't you imagine how am i gonna look. terrible i guess.haha...but no matter what, i will try my super best to lose some weight and eat little(will i?) insya'allah.

Ada Apa Dengan AF?

"dik, kau ni still stuck dalam dunia AF la..."
"people don't watch that reality show anymore k".

Hmm..tu la yang akak aku cakap kat aku.huhu.. am i? Bukan stuck tapi aku memang suka hiburan. aku suka tengok drama yang terjadi kat AF. AF kan famous dengan kejutan and definitely a lot of DRAMA. Tue yang syok tengok. Ala..aku tengok gitu2 je. Bukan nye obses sangat.hee..tapi kadang2 tu terobses gak.

Moreover, Pak Nil pulak yang jadi host AF kali ni. Orang yang paling synonym dengan Akademi Fantasia. Confirm terlebih2 drama nye. But dia la orangnya yang sebab kan kita semua mengalirkan airmata. Betul tak?
I'm not big fan of him. But OK la.

But, AF ni aku tengok more tue rupa je. Ada rupa tapi zero talent, tak leh jadi gak. Paling tak pun, most of them jadi pelakon. Tak semua yang go on dengan menyanyi as their career. AF kali ni bagi aku yang betul2 boleh nyanyi pun ada like a few je. Pelajar yang aku nampak really have that talent on singing+vocal is miza, afif, nera and asri kot. But MIZA memang best. Even she's not really that pretty, but i like her voice. She can sing english very well.

Ok la cite pasal AF nie...
daaa

Fakers!

OMG!
feel sorry for me? don't be. feel sorry for urself!
but, paling penting aku yang feel sorry kat kau.
just wait and see.

DUDE, or should i call you LOSER!
i am so OVER you! i just feel sorry for you. Kau rasa kau hebat sangat?
there's so many fish in the water k. Bukan kau sorang je.

don't make me HATE you so bad.

move bi-atch!

look.
i can't change the way i think and i can't change the way i am.
but if i offended you? GOOD
cause is still don't give a FUCK!

life isn't only about you

Thank you for the friendship you have offered;

rest assured that i'll treasure it in my heart
and will always remember that once in my life,
i've known someone like you.

things aren't the way they were before

if you ignore me, i will ignore you. if you don't start the conversation, we won't talk. if you don't put in the effort, why should i?

but there's something abt him that make me like him ever since the day i met him. there as something abt him that made me go absolutely "crazy".

if you want a perfect girl, go buy a barbie and leave me alone.

its hurts to see someone you love ignoring you. it also hurt to see that he doesn't feel your love.

but it hurts even more to now that he _ _ _ _ you too and just doesn't want you to know.

move bi-atch! get out the way

Flat Tummy.

ATTENTION ALL GIRLS: We ALL know that the lower stomach is one of the very hardest places to burn fat and tone.

These are some terrific exercises to do in the morning and at night to burn those hard to tone areas!

Do this every morning when you wake up, and every night before you sleep. I guarantee you’ll see results in a week flat!

You Belong with Me.

Real life is a funny thing.

I think most of us fear reaching the end of our life, and looking back, regretting the moments we didn’t speak up.

When we didn’t say ‘I Love You’. And should’ve said ‘I’m Sorry’.

So there’s a time for silence, and there’s a time for waiting your turn.

But if you know how you feel, and you so clearly know what you want to say, you’ll know it.

I don’t think you should wait.

I think you should SPEAK NOW.

Yuna - Penakut

ini tidak adil, tidak adil baginya.

She's Broken/He's Ok

Lets The Pictures Do The Talking

*So,This Is My Girlfriends n Boyfriends Forever!

I Really F***ing L.O.V.E You!

This Is Not A GoodBye.

Today Is The First Day Of The Rest Of Your Life

• We need not be victims of our past.
• Our experience shape and influence who we are and how we behave.
• These experience should not dictate what we can become.
• You need not be forever shy and unassertive just because "you have always been that way".
• You need not be in an unhappy relationship because you don't know what else to do.
• Your past guides to who you are today,but it should not be an anchor.

*ok,actually this is what i've learned in Human Personality and Team Building subject.
plus,esok Rabu 16 march 2011(actually dah masuk Rabu pn bila saya post entry ni :P)saya akan jawab paper nie for my last final exam.huhu...Hopefully,everything's gonna be super fine!
*The best thing is my dearest lecturer yang teach subject nie bagi kami super-duper tips tops(macam hanz kata).Yang actually more to HINT ok..ILY Mr.Faudzi Ahmad!Yeah!
*Break a leg to me!

Untitled

When you lose someone,someone you love.when someone break your heart,it's the hardest things you could ever go through.and no matter how much time has passed,it never really goes away.you may think you're getting better,but then you get flashback,or hear a song that reminds you of memory,and it hits you all over again,all at once,like a stab in a chest.you fall apart for a hundredth times.and you feel like you just want to crawl under a rock and never comes out.you love this person with all of your heart,even though you know you shouldn't.they hurt you worse than you've ever been hurt.they stole your happiness.but yet,you still want them,and only them.other people came along and give you chances to move on,but you know you don't want to.it upset you that you've might be moving on,because you promise you never would.and even if they broke all their promises you want to keep yours.on top of that,you're terrified.terrified of getting hurt again.but it's not like it matter anyway,at the end of the day you're still thinking about the person who has left you completely broken.you don't want to miss them anymore.you don't want to love them anymore,but you know you always will.

10 things i hate about you

She Still Cares.

She’s telling herself & everybody else,

”I don’t give a freak anymore.”

”I can care less.”

”I’m moving on.”

”I’m over him.”

”I’m looking forward.”

”Why bother?”

”Feels good being single.”

But deep down, she knows she’d take him back in a heartbeat if he comes around, again.

so uncool

Love is BLIND.
F**k off!
Love does HURT.
So true!

WHY?:
i used to be that person.
so uncool.
it was so 'stupid'.
i know,feeling can't be deny.
but it so sakit ok.
i think being single is better.
two is not always better than one.
but what if the person u crazy like,
love someone else?
he gives you hope.
he treats you right.
the way he look at you.
the way he care abt you.
he makes you keep on waiting.
but in the end,
he was like"maaf sebab aku buat kau salah faham".
WTF!
misunderstood?
give me a break!
r u serious dude?
after all this time.
nie je yang dia boleh cakap.
but u just can't even hate or mad at him.
u will get piss off.
but it just for a moment.
Pfft!
but seriously,
Sorry i ain't rihanna,i don't love the way u lie.

word of advice;
(being heartless cause nobody can hurt you inside.)

You're Beautiful Gorgeous

The MUSLIMAH FASHIONISTA
My Inspiration.
They RAWKS!

Thx To HIM

“I know you’re upset about him. It’s okay, be upset, cry, scream into your pillow till you think you’ve lost your voice. But looking back on this stupid boy who broke your heart in the future, you’ll laugh at him, Laugh because he thought he was doing the right thing at the right time. Turns out he wasn’t because he lost something amazing. And you’ll thank him. Thank him for making you stronger, and to say to hell with him, I’m great. But most importantly you’ll appreciate what he did, because without him leaving you wouldn’t have found the amazing boy you’re with now.”

ku mohon

Ya Allah maha pemurah dan maha pencipta

Terima kasih atas pertemuan antara aku dan dia

Jika nyata bukan aku pemilik tulang rusuknya

Kikiskanlah pesonanya dari kedua mata

Dengan segala kelebihan dan kekurangan yang ada

Bahagiakanlah mereka berdua ku doakannya

PadaMu ku pohon sucikan hatiku

Sehinga dapat melaksana kehendak dan rencanaMu

Amin

If I Die Young

The Band Perry

If I die young bury me in satin

Lay me down on a bed of roses

Sink me in the river at dawn

Send me away with the words of a love song

oh oh oh oh

Lord make me a rainbow, I’ll shine down on my mother

She'll know I’m safe with you when she stands under my colors, oh and

Life ain't always what you think it ought to be, no

ain't even grey, but she buries her baby

The sharp knife of a short life, well

I’ve had just enough time

If I die young bury me in satin

Lay me down on a bed of roses

Sink me in the river at dawn

Send me away with the words of a love song

The sharp knife of a short life, well

I’ve had just enough time

And I’ll be wearing white when I come into your kingdom

I’m as green as the ring on my little cold finger

I’ve never known the lovin' of a man

But it sure felt nice when he was holding my hand

There’s a boy here in town says he’ll love me forever

Who would have thought forever could be severed by

The sharp knife of a short life, well

I’ve had just enough time

So put on your best boys and I’ll wear my pearls

What I never did is done

A penny for my thoughts, oh no I’ll sell them for a dollar

They're worth so much more after I’m a goner

And maybe then you’ll hear the words I been singin’

Funny when you're dead how people start listenin’

If I die young bury me in satin

Lay me down on a bed of roses

Sink me in the river at dawn

Send me away with the words of a love song

oh oh

The ballad of a dove

Go with peace and love

Gather up your tears, keep ‘em in your pocket

Save them for a time when your really gonna need 'em oh

The sharp knife of a short life, well

I’ve had just enough time

So put on your best boys and I’ll wear my pearls

Don't Give Everything Up This Year

Don’t give everything up. (print out and post where it makes sense).

Don’t give everything up this year, especially not yourself. Before you (again) make all kinds of resolutions about what you’d like to be more and what to do less in the future, how about deciding to live true to yourself and fall in love with the things you create and the work you do NOW. If you work, it will lead to something, something you can work with.

“To be nobody-but-yourself - in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”

— e.e. cummings

Don’t hide under a rock, the world is more interesting with your contributions, big or small, just keep making work.

E & BM

I wish that Eminem and Bruno Mars were my brothers. So then Eminem could beat up whoever breaks my heart and then Bruno Mars could teach him the right way to treat a girl, for future reference.

We Love Both Of You

BOLD what applies to me

My Personality :

• I’m loud
I’m obnoxious
• I’m sarcastic
• I’m cocky
• I cry easily
• I have a bad temper
• For the most part, I don’t like people
• I’m easy to get along with
• I have more enemies than friends
• I’ve smoked
• I’ve smoked weed
• I drink coffee
• I clean my room daily
• 
  

My Appearance :

• I wear makeup 
• I wear a piece of jewelry at all times
• I wear contacts
• I wear glasses
• I have/had braces
• I change my hair color often
• I straighten my hair often
• I have piercings
• I have small feet
• No one resembles me
• 
  

Relationships :

• I’m in a relationship now
• I’m single
• I’m crushing
• I’m in love
• I’m always scared of being hurt
• An ex has physically abused me, at least once
• I’ve told someone I loved them when I didn’t
• I’ve told someone I didn’t love them when I did
• I’ve been in love more than two times
• I believe in love at first sight
• 
  

Friendships :

• I have a best friend
• I have at least ten friends
• I’ve gotten a phone call in the last 48 hours from a friend
• I’ve been in a serious fight with a friend
• I can trust at least five people with my life
• 
  

Experiences :

• I’ve been on a plane
• I’ve been on a train
• Someone close to me has died
• I’ve taken a taxi
• I’ve taken a city bus
• I’ve taken a school bus
• I’ve gone bungee jumping
• I’ve made a speech
• I’ve been in some sort of club
• I’ve won an award
• I’ve spent 24 hours on the computer straight
• I’ve been in a physical fight
• 
  

Music :

• I listen to R&B
• I listen to country
• I listen to pop
• I listen to techno
• I listen to rock
• I’m one of those people who play songs repeatedly until I hate it
• I hate the radio
• I buy CDs/even though I own an iPod
• 
  

Television :

• I spend at least six hours a day watching TV
• I watch soap operas daily
• I’m in love with Days of Our Lives
• I’ve seen and liked The OC
• I’ve seen and liked One Tree Hill
• I’ve seen and liked Americas Next Top Model
• I’ve seen and liked Popular
• I’ve seen and liked 24
• I’ve seen and liked CSI
• I’ve seen and liked Everwood
• 
  

Family Life :

• I get along with both of my parents
• My biological parents are still together
• I have at least one brother
• I have at least one sister
• I have at least one step brother/sister
• I have at least one half brother/sister
• I’ve been kicked out of my house
• I’ve ran away from home
• I’ve made my parents cry
• I’ve lied to my parents
• I’ve lied to my parents about where I am
• I’ve lied to my parents about what I’m doing
• I’ve walked out when I’ve been grounded
• I don’t live with my parents
• 
  

Hair :

• I’ve been brown
• I’ve had streaks
• I’ve cut my hair in the past year
• I’ve dyed my hair in the past year
• I’ve been blonde
• I’ve been red
• I’ve been light brown
• I’ve been medium brown
• I’ve been blue/green
• I’ve gotten my hair thinned
• I use conditioner
• I’ve used Silk Therapy
• I’ve used hot oil treatments
• I’ve curled my hair
• I’ve straightened my hair
• I’ve ironed my hair
• I’ve braided my hair
• 
  

School :

• I’ve yelled at a teacher
• I’ve been suspended
• I’v had an in-school suspension
• I’ve been sent to the principals office
• I’ve walked out of class
• I’ve skipped an entire day of school
• I’ve skipped a whole month of one certain class
• I’ve failed a test
• I’ve cheated on a test
• I’ve helped someone else cheat on a test
• I’ve failed Art
• I’ve failed PE
• I’ve failed Math
• I’ve failed Science
• I’ve failed another class
• A teacher has called my parents